By request from Mica Rodriguez, I made a podcast on Open Relationships. I also got some questions and subtopics from two Plurk threads that I started.
I am by no means a relationship expert nor a graduate of any course that will make me a credible source of information or opinion on the matter. These are just my views and opinion based on my experiences and observations.
You might find some value in it. Listen…
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Links:
Wikipedia: Open Relationships
Wikipedia: Open Source
Plurk Threads: Link 1, Link 2
This is another test podcast. Humor me while I prepare for better podcasts.
If you have any topic suggestions, comments, and opinions, please share them on the comments box.
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An open relationship is all about honesty and you hit the bullseye when you said that jealous people should NOT go into an open relationship.
But I disagree that open relationships are for people who don’t want to settle down.
I know several couples who are in an open relationship they have been together for years (5 years or more, one for 14 years!) and I can say that they are really already settled as a couple – own house, kids, joint investment accounts, etc.
The only difference they have from a “normal” couple is that they are not exclusive when it comes to sex and dating.
Either one can go out on a date and have sexual relationships provided that he/she will not lie about his/her true status to the third party, to avoid false hopes and expectations.
Before going out with a third party, they’d say something like: “I’m in a committed open relationship, we can go out on dates and spend time together but that’s it. We cannot talk about and plan for a future together because I already have someone to do that with. We live only in the present moment.”
Thanks for the input! Glad I gave people the right idea about the topic. 🙂
Thank you for choosing my suggested topic on your second podcast. 😀
Compared to last year, my views and thoughts about this set-up changed. I admit that being the NBSB that I am, i am still idealistic when it comes to relationships. Of course, who wouldn’t like to have her first boyfriend to be her last?
My perception about relationships changed when almost all of my friends who were expecting too much on their first relationships failed. Their parters cheated and some of them find it hard to move on.
Also last year, i had the chance to talk to this person and explained to me his set-up with his partner. I asked him questions then he revealed that he is in an open relationship. When i asked him to explain further, he told me that he and his partner (whom he has a kid with) are not practicing the traditional relationship. For them, honesty and trust is important. They are open into meeting other people, but at least with the consent of the other person. I think they’re together for more that six years now.
I was writing a draft story with an open relationship theme. Hmmm… i will write a similar entry soon 😀
Mica, it’s not ideal and it’s not for everybody. A traditional, committed, exclusive relationship is still the best.
And I think, if I do get married, I’d still prefer the traditional marriage. That’s what the marriage is for, a commitment to be solely with that person.
awts… di ako pwede sa open relationship.. dapat sa close relationship lng.. \m/
listening to your podcast while writing articles about alcoholism, though di sila related… but I’ve discovered something…
Both love and alcoholism are progressive diseases.
Darl, I’m a closed relationship kind of girl but sometimes things change, people are different, situations are difficult and unpredictable. 🙂
Nasabi ko lng di ako pwede when you discussed about selos.. and for that type of personality Open relationship is a big no..
but I’m not closing door for open relationship ideas.. despite puro negative impacts nababasa ko.
two thumbs up for balanced discussion 😀
Open relationships are hard to maintain because sometimes emotions gets in the way.
On the technical side of your podcast, you might to filter out the ambient noise on your recording (hissing sound on the background) using Audio editting softwares (you can use Audacity)
Open relationships won’t work for me because I would always get jealous. Thanks for emphasizing it. Lol.
I like this podcast.
Darl, thank you!
Ayel, hehe! 🙂
There is this one episode in House wherein they touched the topic of open marriage. In that episode, the woman rationalized that with traditional marriage they had become miserable; she said that she’d rather get the 10% the husband can’t give her from someone else so that she can really appreciate the 90% her husband has been giving.
I reckon, it is ideal logically speaking because the relationship is honest however I’m still not up for it or will ever be(hehe).
I agree with you when you said that it is not for jealous people.. I believe that one should be emotionally and psychologically prepared before engaging with this kind of relationship.
cool topic! looking forward for more discussions.. 🙂
ZHA! Asa na ka gibutang ni Lord?
I guess open relationships are really just for certain types of people. It’s not for everybody. 🙂
MU = Mutual Understanding pala?
All this time I was lead to believe that it was Mag-Un.
CURSES!!!
Keysi LOL!
naa gypon dwi sa baba.. hehehe! mingaw nako metro.. hihihi!
Zha, tagal na rin ako di nakakapunta. Busy kaayo! Uwi na para maka-Metro tayo. 🙂