I’ve heard and been witness to some bizarre and convoluted love stories, and have even been part of a few. I have witness how hearts have been crushed to bits and how some stories do have happy endings. One thing I’ve learned about life and love is knowing when to say no, when to quit, when to realize that something is too much. In poker, it’s knowing when to fold.

I’ve had a friend who tried, for the longest time, in weird and sweet ways, to catch the attention of a girl. He even studied hard and worked really hard just to be on the honor roll so the girl would notice him. He graduated as one of the top ten in the batch, but he didn’t get the girl. He loved the girl so much that when his mother told him there are many other fish in the sea (tired cliche, I know), he told her “but *insert girl’s name* is the only girl I want.” Poor guy didn’t know how to quit, and he suffered for it.

And then there’s this cousin of mine, who after years with being with her first boyfriend, broke up with him. Fact is, he broke up with her. But it was her who said, “ok… enough of this effin crap. Break up with me and you’ll never get me back.” Thank goodness she never did go back to him even if he was already desperately wanting her back. Now she is with a guy who makes her happy.

I was also a witness to how my friend’s heart was crushed into a million little pieces. He had been pining for his cutie ex-girlfriend who had allegedly cried buckets of tears when she found out that he was woo-ing a common friend. Turns out the guy was just being friendly and the rumor is false. What’s not false, however, was how the girl was actually dating one of their common friends. Good thing my friend knew how to quit and bid adieu to the girl even when he still loved her sooo much. Her loss, I tell you.

So dear cousin of mine, believe me when I say. QUIT! Your heart has been broken more than once. And it wasn’t because of something stupid or negligible or forgettable. It was because he cheated. A real relationship with another person who is not you, is an affair. It should actually hurt more you know, because he was emotionally involved with the girl. And he didn’t do it for the first time either. Don’t explain, don’t rationalize, don’t even think he might change, or that there’s a reason for this. He is a cheating, lying asshole who does not deserve you.

And no, don’t think he is the best you can have. Because believe me, he does not deserve you. You are beautiful, smart, talented, and an over all nice person. Any guy would give an arm and leg just to be with you. Heck! They’d fake an illness so they could have a reason to see you. And so what if there is nobody else for you, you have us. Better that you be alone, than spend an eternity with somebody who do not love you enough to be loyal and faithful.

Enough is enough. Once is maybe forgivable, even understandable. But twice, there’s no rhyme or reason in this world that should make you forget or forgive that. ENOUGH! QUIT ALREADY! The universe is going to give you somebody better, somebody who deserves you.