If you have been reading this blog, listening to my podcasts, and following me in micro blogs and SNS, you probably know a lot about me already. I am single. Not actively seeking for a boyfriend, but hoping for a new adventure. I am not looking for anybody specific, but somebody I can spend days and night conversing with. Somebody interesting and willing to do stuff together, go to new places, experience new things. Somebody who will encourage and inspire me to do better. Somebody I can nurture and take care of. Three years ago, I wrote a list of qualifications for the guy(s) I would date or be in a relationship with. Back then I have not had any boyfriends or ex-es, only almost and not quite relationships. Some of those items in the list have changed, some remain true til this day. Right now, I have a special place in my heart for guys in these three professions: lawyers, engineers, and basketball players. Lawyers are usually great speakers and decent writers who are interested (or at least obliged to know about) current events and the news. If find these guys intellectually stimulating and very challenging and interesting to…
Category: love
Podcast 4: Friends to Lovers?
By request from Vanjohnn Mendoza, a young blogger from Cebu, my podcast is all about friendships and how these turn into romantic relationships. In this episode, I talk about how the media influences our ideas about this, how some people can get the wrong idea about their friends of the opposite sex, mixed signals, friendship as a foundation of a romantic relationship, and more. Listen as I try to make sense of a very interesting but complicated issue... To download this podcast, right click, and pick “Save link as…”: LINK. Here's a link to my "For All the Meantime Girls" article on SunStar. Do you agree or disagree? Do I even make sense? Thank you to Jam, Chattee, Poyty, Donna, Christian, Dulce, and Sparky for suggestions and input! :) Photo of Lyle Santos and Brendel Balaga courtesy of Chattee.
Let’s Just Fall In Love Again
I absolutely love this song by Jason Castro, Let's Just Fall In Love Again... Uh huh... uh huh... uh huh! I looove that song. It's so catchy and the lyrics are so kilig. :) No I don't want to fall in love with my ex. It's more complicated than the most complicated differential calculus problem I have encountered. And no, I am not yet in love or dating another guy right now. I have been honestly busy with work and organization tasks. Hindi po ako nagpapakabait coz I am secretly dating anybody. Kusang loob po ang pagbe-behave. CHE! But I am looking forward to falling in love again. Despite the heartbreaks and the bad experiences of other people, there's still a part of me that wants to fall in love again. I look forward to long conversations with a smart, good-looking guy who will make me feel secure and inspire me to be a better person. At least that's what my FB status says. Kidding! Of course I want to fall in love, love, and be with someone. Someone who'll understand me or at least try to understand me, and support me all the way. In the same way I'd…
Podcast 2: Open Relationships
By request from Mica Rodriguez, I made a podcast on Open Relationships. I also got some questions and subtopics from two Plurk threads that I started. I am by no means a relationship expert nor a graduate of any course that will make me a credible source of information or opinion on the matter. These are just my views and opinion based on my experiences and observations. You might find some value in it. Listen... Download this episode at this link. Helpful? Or not! Comment. Suggest. Share your opinions. Links: Wikipedia: Open Relationships Wikipedia: Open Source Plurk Threads: Link 1, Link 2 This is another test podcast. Humor me while I prepare for better podcasts. If you have any topic suggestions, comments, and opinions, please share them on the comments box.
A Close Encounter with the Ex
Last Sunday, the most important tournament in my poker life was going to take place. Imagine working hard for and anticipating a tournament for three months. It was supposed to be intense and stressful. Surprisingly, I was calm and relaxed. Until... I saw my ex walk in. GAAAAH! Let's call him ex-R. We have had an agreement that he would try to inform me everytime he would go someplace I would probably be in and I would do the same. Needless to say, his early evening visit to the poker club came without a warning. He only visited the poker club on early evenings when we dated. More surprisingly, his gf was not with him. GAAAAH! WHY?! WHY?! WHY?! So I became distracted and as poker players would say, I was on tilt. We are friends, my ex and I. In fact, we would sometimes send SMS to each other to ask or consult about work-related stuff. But, I was caught off-guard. And yes, I was shocked by how much I was affected by his presence. You know what was even more disturbing? He was seated and played beside another guy I dated whom we shall refer to as ex-A.…
Healing a Broken Heart
*I know my friends don't like it when I'm emo but I wouldn't be Ria if I weren't emo. And I'd rather write about these things than hibernate, be suicidal, get catty, or have GERD or other stress-induced illness. Sorry friends.* One day the body asked the heart, When I’m hurt the doctor heals it. But if you’re hurt, who will heal you? Then the heart said, I have to heal by myself. Is it because of that whenever someone is hurt, they have their own special way of healing it? Drinking, singing, releasing anger, laughing, crying, going to trips with friends and talking to them, and running in the marathon... or the worst thing is just ignoring that pain. My way of healing is by making cake and cookies in the morning like right now. ...and I was healed from the smell of the baked cake. Can there be another treatment as sweet as this one? -Kim Sam Soon, My Name is Kim Sam Soon Episode 4 How does one heal a broken heart, exactly? I do not know. Once upon a time, I played DotA for 12 hours straight just so I could forget, go home, and go…