I'm single. Unmarried. No partner. Most years I would spend Valentine's Season dating myself. Obviously, not on the day itself. That's a hassle. Anyway, the past few years I have been spending it here at home. And I quite enjoy it. To be honest, I date myself even on other days. Anytime I feel like it. Here are my Solo Dating Ideas if you want to have a fun and memorable day. What is Solo Dating? I am not even sure if that is a legit term for it but it is the word I use when I go out and date myself. Been doing it since I was in college. And I have been doing it more often now that I am usually just at home. I love eating alone. Watching a movie alone. Basically, treating myself to a fun time. Alone. Before, I would usually do it when I want to celebrate something special. Not necessarily Valentine's Day or my birthday. But anything I want to celebrate. Like closing a client deal. Finishing a project. Whatever or whenever I feel happy. Or even when I feel sad. Preparing for your Solo Date What makes a solo date different…
Category: love
Dear Love
Dear Love, I have been planning to write this for a few days now. Despite how complicated what we had was, you were the only one who really saw me. You listened to me. Tried to understand me. Remembered things I mentioned. Consoled me when I needed it. I guess what I am trying to say is "thank you!" For the longest time, I kept on asking myself why our memories mean much to me. We did not have much. Not much time nor memories together. Yet what we had... whatever it was, it still means much to me. And it struck me. You truly saw and understood who I am. And I haven't realized that there are so few so who did that for me, made me feel seen and understood. Like my problems mattered. As if what I said had meaning. That my victories, big and small, were things I should be proud of. While I regret so much of what happened between us, I am still grateful because you always listened. You were always there to comfort me. You never insisted on solving my problems for me but you were always ready to help when I asked…
Dear Love
Dear Love, I cannot believe I am finally doing this. And I hope I do follow through because I know I need to. This is just the first of what I think would be many. To you and to others to whom I owe my words to. First off, I want to make it clear that I am doing this without any agenda or intention other than to say the words I have meant to say. To share my thoughts and finally let go of things. I am a mess. I usually am... but now more than ever. And it is sad that the one person I badly want to talk to is the one person I cannot and should not talk to about it. My life has always been this comical tragedy that people would never think could happen in real life... so I guess I should not be shocked anymore that this is currently where I am at. For now, this is all I can say... I have never thought it possible for me to be so wrong about myself and about you... about us. After decades, I finally know it has always been you. Whether by fate…
Dear Love
Dear Love, It's been a while. Suddenly, it is August... and before we know it, the ber season is here. And 2021 will come to a close. It's like I blinked to rest and the year went by, without much really happening to me. But really, a lot has happened since. I would like to say I am much better. Truth is, I do not know. But this I am certain, I have come to know, learn, and realize a lot these past few months. Whether by mistake or mere happenstance, I have come to understand more about myself. Not intentionally. Definitely not deliberately. But I welcomed it. Like a flood, memories came rushing back. Along with it, more tears than I had expected. Countless nights spent thinking. Mulling, And yes, crying myself to sleep. I am not ok. But this time, not because of the usual reasons. One day, I will be brave enough to tell those stories. Share those memories. Meantime, I will spend more time thinking, asking, and seeking answers. Not because I need closure, but because I need to do better. Be better. I am not ok. My heart is not ok. My mind is clouded.…
Dear Love
05/16/2019, past 4 am Dear Love, You know how some movies take you to a time and place? I am now watching "He's Just Not That Into You." And it took me back to when I first watched this movie. Back then, I was in love with this guy. I thought he was my one great love. To me, back then, he was perfect. Smart. Hard-working. And not bad looking. He was quite charming. I thought he loved me. Maybe he did... but not as much as he loved other things. When I watched HJNIY, it brought to light a lot of things. When you're in love or heartbroken, everything means something. You relate to everything. So this movie, it made me think and realize that what we had, whatever it was, was not worth the pain and heartache. We do not all have that one great love that's epic and tragic but end up happy. Most of us, we fall in love quietly... without much fanfare and no drama. It might seem boring and ho-hum but most relationships are like that. Boring. Not worth being written about or watching. But it does not mean those are less magical than…
Closure
"Tell her why. At least give her the chance to have feelings about it. For god’s sake!” – Meredith Grey, Grey’s Anatomy Season 2 Episode 2 Sabi dito ENTJ daw personality ko. Sabi rin "ENTJs desire closure in their lives, wanting to make conclusions about things or people quickly." AWOW! I'm not one to easily believe these online quizzes and tests but I have consistently gotten an ENTJ result the past few years. (I used to be ENFP.) Anyway, the point is... apparently, I need closure. Personality test and diagnosis aside, yes, I am that person. It took me almost five years to get over my first love. And he wasn't even my boyfriend. We just had an on and off thing. I moved on because I got the closure I wanted. We didn't really part ways. Rather, he got himself a girlfriend. And yes, brave old me was calm and collected. I maintained my friendship with the guy. And his girlfriend. HUWOW! That started a pattern in all my relationships which I terribly regret now. So how did I get the closure I wanted? I asked for it. Some four or five years after he got himself a girlfriend,…