“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love, and be loved in return.” -Moulin Rouge
One of my favorite movies is Moulin Rouge. Partly because of the line above. Yes, to love and be loved is the greatest thing one can experience.
It is hard to love. It is a daunting thing to accept, understand, nurture, to love a person. It is difficult to choose to be with another person, to make that life a part of who you are, even if you don’t have to.
Much harder, I think, is to be loved in return. We choose to love. That choice is in our hands. But to be loved in return, that is not something we choose. It it something that the other person chooses for us. To be loved in return is one of the best things one can experience. But no matter how hard you love, how badly you want it to happen, how much you work for it, being loved in return… Is not something you can easily get.
That is exactly why it is such a great thing, the best thing to love and be loved in return. Being in the business of around people committing to love and be loved by each other forever, gives me hope that I, too, shall love and be loved. The circumstances, time, and place may differ from one couple to another but they did find each other.
Bv there are also times when I become skeptical. These people found each other and chose each other in very specific circumstances, time, and place. What if I never find myself in that circumstance, time, and place? What if I never choose to love a person, or worse, what if the person I do choose to love does not choose to love me in return?
What do I do? Do I go on with life waiting to bump into somebody? Do I actively seek out for that somebody?
I am 26 years old, an age most people say is already a marrying age. But truth be told, I do not think of or dream of getting married. While I do think of flirting and dating, I am not (yet) desperate to have a boyfriend or significant other. And yes, I do get a bit frustrated when crushie doesn’t pay too much attention to me. However, I easily move on. It is raining men right now, after all. 😛
I do, however, still believe that to love and be loved in return is the greatest thing. And I should be so lucky to experience that. I hope.
I remember this line from this song by Natasha Bedingfield:
“…who doesn’t long for someone to hold…someone to love you without being told…somebody tell me, why I’m on my own? If there’s a soulmate for everyone…”
Basta, we will find our respective “hims” hehehe….:D
I don’t believe it’s the circumstance, rather the emotional development of both parties that define a mature love, where both people simply love and are loved in return.
Circumstance brings to mind a particular time, or place, or even a situation, and while I wouldn’t discount its role in bringing a relationship to fruit, it should not be the primary factor, but rather serve as a sweet memory to strengthen a bond.
For the sake of brevity, let me just say that I believe that love is a product of growth, maturity, and most of all, practice. You’ve gotta play with the ball if you want to learn how to dribble. =)
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indeed to love and be loved is the greatest thing we will ever learn… it is enshrined in the Bible and reiterated in the book “tuesdays with Morrie” love doesnt only speak of a significant other …. LOVE is the thing we must give in our everyday lives … to make thins uncomplicated. =)
and yes, “it’s raining men” – i often use the line too, when someones makes papansin or something..hehhe
someday, somehow, someone will come along for us. =)