A lot of people haven’t been very enthusiastic over my long distance relationship with a guy I barely know. If I were in their position, I’d be worried and pessimistic too. True, there are moments when I think things through and realize that this relationship does not make a lot of sense. How can I, eternal critic of all things and everybody that can be criticized, be in a relationship with somebody who is not at all my type of guy… in a kind of relationship that is something I used to frown on.
I must admit, there are moments when breaking up seems to be the better, saner option. And it is. But for now, I choose this. I choose to be in the relationship because despite everything, I have matured because of it. I have learned things about myself and about loving that I didn’t know before.
Falling in love is not a choice, it’s a feeling we can’t avoid or force ourselves into. I have felt it before and it has done me no good. This time around I didn’t fall in love. I chose to love.
He might not be the perfect guy, might not be good enough for me and for a lot of people. But for now, he is the one I choose. Our relationship might not make a lot of sense. It might not last a long time, and I might regret it somehow, but this is what I choose right now. It does not make sense to a lot of people, but it does to me.
I agree Ria Jose. Loving someone despite distance, time, culture and personality differences is a choice we make. In my younger years, I have also had “bad or poor” loves or mismatches or wrong decisions — from others’ viewpoints; but, those relationships were the ones which helped me most to grow, to mature, and be happier with more colorful memories to reminisce. Be happy with your current love, expect the best to come. Life/love is what you make it:)
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ria, i am very happy that you have given somebody a chance.Loving would not come easy.Expect it to be always tough and rough.All the more that you should not be scared but rather swim through it.Tides would drown you and kill you but you get this high feeling of lightlessness.Believe me it should always be a give and take process especially long-distance ones.It should always be based on TRUST.have a wonderful year of loving.